80+ Positive Affirmations for Women

Positive Affirmations

June 23, 2023

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The Power of Daily Positive Affirmations for Women

These 80 positive affirmations for women are perfect for expanding your capacity to manifest your dreams.

When you set a positive affirmation, you set the intention and direction for your day. It reinforces your behaviour and who you want to be. It focuses your subconscious mind on solutions while your conscious mind carries on your daily routine. 

For example, let’s say that your morning positive affirmation is ‘I can do hard things because I am strong, and I know it helps me grow.’ 

a dream board can help you remember your positive affirmations

Get Your Brain Primed!

When a challenge comes up, you have already ‘primed’ your brain to react positively. It is like starting your day with a coffee or having a good breakfast; it gives your brain a boost and a better chance at succeeding in being who you want to be.

Incorporating positive affirmations for women into your daily routine, with regular check-ins, will create more consistent results.

Even taking the initial step of saying a positive affirmation in the morning yields results. Without using powerful positive affirmations, you will be on autopilot – just reacting rather than being self-aware and listening to your inner voice.

The most miraculous thing about positive affirmations and ‘testing’ whether they are working is that you can reflect on how they have changed things for you over time. 

Over time, you will learn to listen to what you need and see the affirmations like a script tailored to what is most important to you in life.


Table of Contents

  1. Take 2-minutes to Write Your Positive Affirmations for the Best Results
  2. Examples of My Favourite Positive Affirmations
  3. Examples of Positive Affirmations I Use
  4. Positive Affirmation for Working on My Relationship with My Spouse
  5. 20 Positive Affirmations for Improving a Romantic Relationship:
  6. The Positive Affirmation I Use as a Mother
  7. 20 Positive Affirmations for Mothers
  8. My Positive Affirmation for Dealing with Perfectionism
  9. 20 Positive Affirmations for Self-Love
  10. My Positive Affirmation for Being Less Judgemental
  11. Positive Affirmation for Being You
  12. 20 Positive Affirmations for Embracing Your Authentic Self
  13. What makes positive affirmations so powerful?
  14. How can you use positive affirmations throughout the day?
  15. Positive Affirmations that Have Significantly Impacted My Life
  16. Positive Affirmations Will Change Your Life
  17. Going Beyond Affirmations: Overcome Limiting Beliefs Is the MOST Important Thing
  18. Going Beyond Affirmations: Steps to Release Limiting Beliefs
  19. Affirmation and Limiting Beliefs Examples to Get You Started
  20. Affirmations + Releasing Limiting Beliefs = a Powerful Tool

Take 2-minutes to Write Your Positive Affirmations for the Best Results

Write down your positive affirmation daily. 

Make it a habit. 

It’s usually just one or two sentences. Writing it will take only a few minutes. 

You can use a journal, notebook or even your phone. I write it in the notes section on my phone, along with the date, to be able to review it anytime during the day. If you prefer to be off your phone, keep a notebook beside your bed, date your affirmation and write it down. 

It is also essential to review it at the end of the day to determine how realistic and genuine your affirmation and related intentions were.

Doing this for at least a month will be most impactful.

Imagine the difference you can make in a few months or more. You can see your growth in how your affirmations change. 

Positive Affirmation: I can choose to be happy today.
I can choose to be happy today.

Examples of My Favourite Positive Affirmations for Women

  •  I achieve what I believe in and feel.
  •  I attract what I think about.
  • My body and health are my priority.
  • I believe in myself.
  • I am open to learning and growing.
  • I control my destiny, and the universe supports me.
  • Life isn’t a dress rehearsal; I want to live today.
  • I will follow my path and be true to myself.
  • I can do hard things because it helps me grow.
  • Change is difficult, and I can do it.
  • I can choose to be happy today.
  • I choose how I react to what happens to me.
  • Nobody said life would be easy or fair. I am here to learn to be the best version of myself.
  • My body is healthy and strong; it can heal itself.
  • I will take a chance today, even if it is scary because I know I am moving in the right direction.

The positive affirmation that inspires you will be unique to your situation and where you need support or growth. 

This is why your affirmations will change over time. 

While I can appreciate wanting to get it right and following a formula of what I use or what someone else you follow, I also encourage you to create positive affirmations because it is what your inner soul is seeking and wishing for.

Positive affirmations for women
 I achieve what I believe in and feel.

Examples of Positive Affirmations I Use

The positive affirmations I create focus on who I want to be rather than what I want.

This gets me into the feeling, which is important because our subconscious works on pictures and feelings. It creates a vivid picture in your mind.

As you read through this, I’ll share some of the positive affirmations that I use and why.

  1. I want to find balance and the time to pause and enjoy the conversations we have today.
  2. I want to be patient, supportive and relaxed.
  3. I understand that having things look perfect at home comes at a cost.
  4. When I judge someone else, I am judging myself. Instead, I chose to appreciate that we all come into the world differently, and I can learn at least one thing from everyone I meet.
  5. I am going to be authentic to me.
The positive affirmations I create focus on who I want to be rather than what I want.
I want to be patient, supportive and relaxed.

Positive Affirmation for Working on My Relationship with My Spouse

‘I want to find balance and the time to pause and enjoy the conversations we have today.’

The greatest gift we can give someone is to make them feel seen and heard. 

If I am working on my relationship with my husband, something all married men and women must always do, then the positive affirmation I use is I want to find balance and the time to pause and enjoy the conversations we have today.’

So, many of us come home, and we are still running and thinking that I can multitask, and there is so much to do.

Creating the intention in the morning, through a positive affirmation, to pause and enjoy the conversation reminds me that life isn’t only about doing.

Life’s best moments are usually those when we are just being – so, are you sitting with your spouse and listening, or are you trying to listen while doing the dishes or writing an email or scrolling social media posts? 

The time spent pausing will create a deeper connection in your relationship and move mountains in the long run. Also, there will always be more laundry.

Positive Affirmation for Working on My Relationship with My Spouse
The greatest gift we can give someone is to make them feel seen and heard. 

20 Positive Affirmations for Women for Improving a Romantic Relationship:

1. Embrace Empathy: I will open my heart to understand my partner’s feelings and perspectives.

2. Patiently Persevere: Patience is my superpower; I will use it to build bridges, not walls.

3. Honest Heart: Honesty is my guiding light; I’ll share my truths kindly and constructively.

4. Cherish the Moments: I will savor the little moments, for they make the grand tapestry of our love.

5. Gratitude Galore: Every day, I’ll find something new to be thankful for in my partner.

6. Communication Champion: With an open mind and heart, I will communicate clearly and listen actively.

7. Growth Together: As we grow as individuals, I am committed to growing together as a couple.

8. Joyful Explorer: I will explore new experiences with my partner to create shared memories.

9. Steadfast Supporter: Through the stormy days and sunny skies, I will be my partner’s unwavering ally.

10. Passionate Pursuer: I’ll keep the spark alive by pursuing my partner with love and passion, as if we’ve just met.

11. Balance Seeker: I will seek balance between giving and receiving love, understanding, and support.

12. Conflict Navigator: I embrace that conflict is part of life; I will face it with grace, working towards resolution.

13. Kindness Kindler: I choose kindness; a gentle word or a sweet gesture can light up our day.

14. Space Giver: I will respect and give space when needed, knowing it nurtures personal growth and mutual trust.

15. Forgiveness Fountain: I am a wellspring of forgiveness; I will let go of the small things for the greater good of our relationship.

16 Humor Haven: Laughter is the music of love; I’ll embrace humor to keep our bond lively and fun.

17. Dream Weaver: Together, we will weave our dreams into reality by supporting each other’s goals.

18. Trust Builder: I will trust my partner and be trustworthy, forming the foundation of our relationship.

19. Affection Shower: I will shower my partner with affection to let them know they are loved and cherished.

20. Commitment Keeper: In this dance of love, I am here for the long haul, two steps forward, one step back, always together.

Positive Affirmations for Women for Improving a Romantic Relationship
I will explore new experiences with my partner to create shared memories.

The Positive Affirmation I Use as a Mother

‘I want to be patient, supportive and relaxed.’

I have twin 11-year-old boys, and they are loud and busy. 

When I come home from work or when they arrive after school, full of energy, it is overwhelming. I think of the million things I still need to do and wish I had more time to do them. 

It is like a race to do it all before bedtime when I can finally be quiet and fall asleep.  I used to feel like I was only focusing on what I needed to do, not who I wanted to be. I kept thinking I don’t have time to sit and listen to them. There are activities to go to, lunches to make and emails to be replied to.

When I started using positive affirmations, it made a huge difference. 

I would set the intention in the morning to be a good mom. By the evening, when I read my affirmation, I realized it was hard to measure up. Sure, I was good. They were fed and got to all their activities, but I needed to be filled up instead of feeling frazzled. 

This was when I learned to affirm more about who I wanted to be and be specific at that. I had to picture what I thought were the most important qualities I wanted to show my boys.

This was when I came up with I want to be patient, supportive and relaxed

What I was saying was that I wanted to be present. 

Now, I am not thinking unrealistically; I glide through the days without so much stress, and there is no running. 

Because of that intention, I now pause, stop and reflect with the kids daily.

What surprised me is how much just sitting for a few minutes of one on one without a plan can change things. 

I started to ask simple, unproductive questions (instead of my normal Type A, highly productive questions) like these: 

Do you think there is anything deep at the core of the earth? 

Do you think people know what they want? 

Do you think computers will be bigger or smaller in the future? 

My point is you will know what is relevant to your child and that the bigger purpose is to ponder with them.

It seems awkward initially, especially if your child is trained to think of you only asking about homework or telling them to do something. 

Over time, it creates a connection and balance for you in your hectic day. This worked for me because I am a massive advocate of the most precious thing we can give, which is time.

The Positive Affirmation I Use as a Mother
I want to be patient, supportive and relaxed

How did I come up with this positive affirmation?

I want to share a personal story from my childhood that may resonate with you. 

Growing up and coming home from elementary school, I remember opening the door and being a little scared of my mom. Maybe we all were. Whenever I came home, she was always busy. She would ask me to ensure I put things away, not leave a mess and do something productive. 

I never came home to find her relaxed or sitting ever! (It makes me laugh to picture this.)

Living my life and having kids, I never reflected on this, and, as a result, I was on autopilot, and this is how I was with my kids. 

I could feel the tension in the air and the running and didn’t realize this was how they also felt.

I didn’t consider that I was then teaching them that it is more important to get things done than to be connected.

When I was asked what I would have wanted my mom to be like when I came home, it hit me and gave me goosebumps because I would have loved it if my mom had been relaxed and calm.

Imagine her reading a book or asking me to go outside and play a game. 

Using my intention and positive affirmations, I was able to start cultivating the relationship that I want with my kids and create a new feeling in the home.

Using my intention and positive affirmations, I was able to start cultivating the relationship that I want with my kids and create a new feeling in the home.
Using my intention and positive affirmations, I was able to start cultivating the relationship that I want with my kids and create a new feeling in the home.

20 Positive Affirmations for Mothers:

1. Nurturing Nature: My love nourishes my children, and in turn, I am nourished by their love.

2. Patience Practitioner: I am patient and understanding, even in the midst of chaos.

3. Guilt-Free Grace: I release guilt and embrace that I am doing the best I can.

4. Limitless Love: My heart’s capacity to love is boundless, and it grows with every day.

5. Energy Equalizer: I balance my energy between taking care of my children and myself.

6. Learning Luminary: I am always learning and growing as a mother, embracing each new stage.

7. Mindful Moments: I take time to enjoy the present, treasuring each moment with my children.

8. Strength Source: I am a source of strength for my family, and I am strong even when I feel weak.

9. Wisdom Wellspring: My experiences shape the wisdom I share with my children.

10. Balance Bringer: I am achieving a harmonious balance between motherhood and my other roles.

11. Self-compassion Sage: I am kind to myself, knowing that self-compassion is vital in motherhood.

12. Adaptable Adventurer: I adapt to the twists and turns of motherhood with grace and resilience.

13. Intuition Igniter: I trust my maternal instincts to guide me in nurturing my children.

14. Joyful Journeyer: I find joy in the little things and create a happy environment for my family.

15. Time Treasure: I make the most of my time, whether it’s for family, work, or self.

16. Support Seeker: I am open to seeking and accepting help when I need it.

17. Boundaries Builder: I set healthy boundaries for the well-being of myself and my family.

18. Laughter Lover: I embrace laughter, making it a cornerstone of my family’s daily life.

19. Gratitude Guardian: I am thankful for the blessings and lessons that motherhood brings.

20. Hope Harbor: I cultivate hope and positivity in my heart, which radiates to my children.

Positive Affirmations for Mothers
I am a source of strength for my family, and I am strong even when I feel weak.

My Positive Affirmation for Dealing with Perfectionism

‘I understand that having things look perfect at home comes at a cost.’

I can choose my house to be perfect, or I can choose to be comfortable with things being left out.

This may sound funny, but as I mentioned at the beginning of this post, the positive affirmation that works best for you is unique to you. 

It inspires you to grow and expand where you need the support. I used to come home from work, and instantly, I could feel my body tensed up and frustration rising in me. 

I would notice shoes left out, dishes not put away and papers left out.

I can argue that my family should put things away correctly, or I can recognize that I cannot change others. But I can change how I react to things. 

I can learn that I have a choice to be upset and think about why it is always a mess, or I can choose to see it as a full home where there is lots of activity and love.  I know that one day it won’t be as full with kids and stuff, and then I can have my ‘show home.’ 

However, even then, I think I will choose to be aware of what I focus on as well as how I spend my energy. 

Don’t get me wrong; I am not saying your family or partner doesn’t need to help keep the home tidy, and you should let dishes pile to the ceiling. I recognize that there is a balance between what I envision as a tidy, ‘perfect’ home and what others envision as a tidy home. 

But I was too far to one side and had unrealistic expectations. This strongly felt need for perfection was costing too much. It was draining, and I was losing connection time with my loved ones.

So, use this affirmation or another one to acknowledge your perfectionist mentality.

It may be in a different area, but the theme is the same. ‘Perfect’ comes at a cost, and life isn’t about being perfect; even nature is imperfect with flower petals of all different sizes and shapes.

My Positive Affirmation for Dealing with Perfectionism
Perfect comes at a cost, and life isn’t about being perfect; even nature is imperfect with flower petals of all different sizes and shapes.

20 Positive Affirmations for Women for Self-Love

1. Embrace Wholeness: I am whole, complete, and enough just as I am.

2. Growth Garden: I plant seeds of growth and self-improvement, knowing that change is a constant companion.

3. Inner Peace: I cultivate inner peace, which radiates outward and influences my world positively.

4. Boundaries Builder: I set and respect my boundaries; my well-being is a priority.

5. Grounding: I am thankful for my journey and all that has shaped me.

6. Beauty Beholder: I see the beauty within me, and it reflects in the world around me.

7. Kindness Kindler: I treat myself with kindness and compassion, as I would a dear friend.

8. Strength Source: My inner strength is a reservoir from which I can always draw.

9. Light Liberator: I release the burdens that dim my light and embrace what illuminates my soul.

10. Harmony Harbor: I harmonize my mind, body, and spirit, nurturing every aspect of my being.

11. Dream Daredevil: I am deserving of my dreams and ambitions and will take steps towards them.

12. Forgiveness Friend: I forgive myself for my past and release it with love.

13. Joyful Juggler: I embrace joy, even in small doses, to uplift my spirit daily.

14. Potential Pathfinder: I am continuously discovering and unlocking my boundless potential.

15. Love Lavisher: I lavish love upon myself, knowing that it’s the first step to loving others wholly.

16. Mindful Maven: I am present in this moment, and I value the power of now.

17. Curiosity Cultivator: I remain curious and open to life’s wonders, enriching my soul.

18. Courageous Crusader: I face my fears with courage, knowing each step strengthens me.

19. Worthy Wonder: I am worthy of love, happiness, and all the positivity life has to offer.

20. Balance Beacon: I strive for balance, recognizing that it is key to my holistic well-being.

Positive Affirmations for Women for Self-Love
I treat myself with kindness and compassion, as I would a dear friend.

My Positive Affirmation for Being Less Judgemental

‘When I judge someone else, I am judging myself. Instead, I choose to appreciate that we all come into the world differently, and I can learn at least one thing from everyone I meet.’

I remember a time in my life when I was closed off and kept noticing what I didn’t like about people.

I would see people and have a list in my head of what I thought, and it was all negative. I would think they were superficial, selfish and thoughtless. 

I started to do some internal work and learned that when I judge, I am judging myself. It made me accountable, and I wanted to make a change.

Every morning, I would write down and say, ‘I can learn one thing from everyone I meet.’ 

The change was dramatic – I was open, and I was curious to hear people’s stories. I would meet and connect with people everywhere I went. I didn’t have to have a long conversation to learn an interesting fact. It made me appreciate all people, not least why they do the things they do. We are all on a journey. I felt lighter every day and had a sense of optimism. This was one of the most powerful tools I have used.

My Positive Affirmation for Being Less Judgmental
The change was dramatic – I was open, and I was curious to hear people’s stories.

Positive Affirmation for Being You

‘I am going to be authentic to me.’

When I encounter a situation where I often compare myself, I will remind myself that we are all unique, and my job is to be true to myself

Comparing is always a lose/lose game – if you feel that you are better than another person, you feel bad for feeling this, and you also feel bad when you know that you are less capable than another person.

Don’t apologize for being authentic to yourself; believe in your uniqueness because that is why you are. I have to work on this continually. 

Part of my creative spirit loves fashion, clothes and how they feel and move. To me, clothes are like a paintbrush to an artist. Playing with different colours and ways to wear things is like creating a different picture.

But there was a time when I used to apologize for caring about clothes and fashion. 

I would allow myself to be made to feel bad and wrong because I liked clothes. I would hear the old programming – this means you are superficial, and you shouldn’t need clothes to make you what you are.

But this is simply not the case. I didn’t use clothes to compare myself to others or to think that I was better than others, or to hide. 

Instead, I used them to honour the little girl inside who loved to dress up and create.

It expresses my being true to myself. I worked on this by letting go of the negative programming and using positive affirmations to guide me to celebrate being me. 

So, if you like clothes or dressing up or whatever your paintbrush is, allow yourself to express who you are and shine.

Positive Affirmation for Being You
Don’t apologize for being authentic to yourself; believe in your uniqueness because that is why you are. I have to work on this continually. 

An example of the challenge I worked through with this positive affirmation:

I have always been someone who cannot be put into a box.

While I love dressing up, which allows my creativity to flow, I also love downhill mountain biking, hiking, and even climbing Kilimanjaro and getting dirty. 

Before having kids, I volunteered in Malawi, Africa. I was sharing a room with another girl, and I remember her saying, ‘Why are you putting on makeup and dressing cute? Nobody cares how you look. 

In the past, I would have felt embarrassed and less for putting on makeup.

After doing this work, I was no longer triggered and could say, ‘I am not doing this for anyone else. I enjoy it, and it brings me joy.’

I remember how great it felt to be true to me. 

To be okay with being me. I choose to do what makes me happy – just the same as someone else choosing not to do so. Neither is wrong. What is wrong is judging someone else for doing what they are doing or not doing. This is comparing, and remember that it is lose/lose.

We are all different, which is beautiful.

I remember how great it felt to be true to me. 
I remember how great it felt to be true to me. 

20 Positive Affirmations for Embracing Your Authentic Self

1. Unapologetic Authenticity: I am unapologetically myself and embrace my unique essence.

2. Inner Wisdom: I trust my intuition and inner wisdom to guide my decisions and actions.

3. Radiant Realness: My authenticity is a radiant light that attracts genuine connections.

4. Limitless Potential: By being true to myself, I unlock my limitless potential.

5. Creative Conduit: My creativity flows freely when I am aligned with my authentic self.

6. Voice Victory: I value my voice and express my thoughts and feelings honestly.

7. Path Pioneer: My path is my own, and I follow it with courage and conviction.

8. Self-Discovery: I am on an exciting voyage of self-discovery and personal growth.

9. Joyful Quirks: I embrace my quirks and find joy in the little things that make me unique.

10. Boundaries Builder: I establish boundaries that protect and honor my true self.

11. Change Champion: I am open to change, evolving while staying rooted in my authenticity.

12. Freedom Flyer: Embracing who I am sets me free from the constraints of others’ expectations.

13. Empathy Embracer: My authenticity deepens my empathy and connections with others.

14. Gratitude Gatherer: I am grateful for the qualities and experiences that have shaped me.

15. Passion Pursuer: My passions are a reflection of my soul, and I pursue them ardently.

16. Inner Critic Calmer: I am gentle with my inner critic and focus on self-compassion.

17. Harmony Haven: Being myself creates harmony within and positively impacts my surroundings.

18. Resilience Rockstar: My authentic self is resilient and can overcome life’s challenges.

19. Purposeful Pathfinder: Aligned with my true self, I navigate life with purpose and intention.

20. Love’s Luminary: I am worthy of love and belonging, and I open my heart to receive these gifts.

Positive Affirmations for Embracing Your Authentic Self
Joyful Quirks: I embrace my quirks and find joy in the little things that make me unique.

What makes positive affirmations so powerful?

Positive affirmations are powerful because they set the tone for your day and your life.

You are forcing yourself to look within and be proactive about your day. Before I did the affirmations and internal work, it was like I was going through life asleep—being on autopilot and running from one task to the next on a never-ending loop. 

By making positive affirmations, you choose what you want in your life. 

You are taking ownership of what you can bring into your life.

One of my favourite quotes is ‘Life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% how you react to it’

We are too often focused on what happens to us, which is beyond our control. Instead, it makes sense to focus on the 90%, which is how you react to what happens. You live more intentionally by working through affirmations and reducing limiting beliefs.

An example of how if you don’t use intentional affirmations, you arrive at the wrong destination:

I want you to picture yourself behind the wheel of a car. 

You control where you go, when you leave, and your driving speed. You cannot control the traffic, the weather, or construction delays. However, most people complain about these external forces.

Instead, think of your destination as your intention, your positive affirmation as the gas in your car, and the steering wheel as you checking in that you are in alignment with your affirmation. 

These are what you can control. 

If you experience delays, remind yourself that these don’t deserve your energy drain because they are out of your control. As long as you are still in the direction of your destination, you can relax, knowing that this is part of the journey.

What makes positive affirmations so powerful?

How can you use positive affirmations throughout the day?

Using powerful affirmations throughout the day makes us more mindful and effective. 

The task of writing your affirmation down makes you more accountable. It works for me to write my affirmations in the notes section on my phone because then it is with me throughout the day. 

There are also different apps that you can use to set reminders. These can be great for some. I find that they don’t always come at the best time and are a distraction. I prefer to link ‘checking in with myself’ with a task I already do daily, such as eating lunch.

So, my routine is to set the affirmation in the morning when I get up. 

I know to do this because I already have my meditation cushion in the bedroom, which is a visual reminder to set the intention. Then, when I have lunch, I check in on how my morning has been and if I have been intentional. 

I ask myself if I have been awake or if have I just been on autopilot getting things done.

A fun fact is that when I do this and take a moment to reflect and revisit the intention, I improve my energy for the afternoon.

How can you use positive affirmations throughout the day?
Take a moment to reflect and revisit the intention.

Positive Affirmations that Have Significantly Impacted My Life

The positive affirmations that have had the most impact on my life were around relationships, money and limiting beliefs that made me feel selfish.

For relationships – I want a relationship in my life so we can connect and grow together

I used to feel that by wanting a relationship, I was weak. Instead, I had to work on this with the following affirmation. I worked on the limiting belief by addressing that wanting a relationship brings value to my life. I don’t need it, but it would add to my life.

For success and growth – I can do hard things; they will make me stronger

This affirmation built my confidence and taught me that it is a learning opportunity even when faced with a challenge. It may be a ‘gift in sandpaper’.

Saying no – I need to honour what I need

Growing up as a people pleaser and empath, I used to have a really hard time saying no because I knew how the other person felt and what they wanted. 

However, I would burn out and be tired. I would come home and need a day to recover.

Remember, everyone will always ask for what they need and want.

It is up to you to communicate what you need and to set boundaries.

I enjoy people and the energy in a room. However, I also need a lot of alone time to think. Throughout the years, I have learned to balance this and appreciate that needing alone time means being true to the self.

Positive Affirmations that Have Significantly Impacted My Life
I have learned to balance and appreciate that needing alone time means being true to the self.

Positive Affirmations Will Change Your Life

Growing up in a smaller town, I remember being away from school for the first time and feeling anxious and scared

I was doing homework with a group of ‘safe’ people in the main hall. I remember thinking I want to experience more and get out of my shell but, at the same time, feeling nervous. There was a social event at the pub where I knew nobody. So, I could stay in my comfort zone and study, or I could stretch, go downstairs and meet new people.

I used the positive affirmation that I can do hard things, and they will make me stronger. 

I still remember walking into the crowded room and repeating my mantra and knowing the worst-case scenario that nobody would talk to me or I would be rejected.

I now realize the worst-case scenario would have been not taking those first scary steps into the intimidating crowd because it forced me to grow. I met some amazing people and created lifelong friendships. I also felt alive and energized because I had challenged myself and proved to myself that trying something new was better than not trying at all. 

I have since entered many new crowded rooms without knowing anyone, and now, it is easy.

This lesson taught me that to grow, you need to take a chance, and just because something is hard or uncomfortable doesn’t always mean you shouldn’t do it.

Positive Affirmations Will Change Your Life
I still remember walking into the crowded room and repeating my mantra and knowing the worst-case scenario that nobody would talk to me or I would be rejected.

Going Beyond Affirmations: Overcome Limiting Beliefs Is the MOST Important Thing

I have spoken to many people who have said, ‘I have tried self-help, meditation, affirmations and retreats in my life, and yet, nothing has changed.

It doesn’t work.’ I have found that the real reason these haven’t worked is because of their own limiting beliefs.

Imagine you are pulling on a tug of a rope. 

You may move a few feet when you pull one end, but if someone pulls the other end, you go back to where you started. 

Even after a lot of effort, you can end up very close to the middle, and it feels like a struggle the whole time. Imagine if you just had one end of the rope and the other end dropped.

When you pulled the rope, it pulled easily and moved with you wherever you wanted to go.

That one end of the rope is your conscious mind working on doing affirmations, meditating and being proactive about making positive changes. 

The other end of the rope is your subconscious mind pulling with equal or more force in the opposite direction—replaying your old programming and holding you back. These are opposite forces, and if you don’t recognize your limiting beliefs, you will struggle and pull against the current. 

To see exponential results, you need to have your subconscious and conscious mind working together.

Now you may think, OK, but how do I know if they are working together? 

Or this seems like more work, and how do I get started without much effort? 

Here are some simple steps to ensure that you are pulling in the same direction.

Overcome Limiting Beliefs Is the MOST Important Thing
When you pulled the rope, it pulled easily and moved with you wherever you wanted to go.

Going Beyond Affirmations: Steps to Release Limiting Beliefs 

Consider the three most important areas you want to work on for positive affirmations.

Pick three categories from the following: body image, self-esteem, confidence, money, sleep, health, relationships and happiness. 

You can write them all down and determine the one you want to focus on first. 

This exercise is like a funnel drilling down to what is holding you back – one step at a time.

Step 1

Write down the most important thing you want to manifest. 

Start with your most paramount goal, and just work on this one to begin with. Acknowledge that looking inwards and acknowledging your limiting beliefs takes more energy than positive affirmations. However, this is crucial because these limiting beliefs are the key to unlocking the door to your goals.

Step 2

Write down what negative beliefs or programming you’ve learned about from this particular goal. 

Ask yourself: Do I think money, a home, success, health a relationship is good? Consider any negative thoughts you have on this. Write down anything that comes to mind, even if it doesn’t make sense.

Going Beyond Affirmations: Steps to Release Limiting Beliefs 
You can write them all down and determine the one you want to focus on first. 

Step 3

Be curious if these beliefs are 100% true and a fact. 

I want you to question why it is true for each negative belief. 

For example, Why is it selfish to have money? You may say because others don’t have any. OK, so is it true that if you want money when others don’t have much, it is selfish? Why? How does what you have to impact them? 

Could you argue that you having more money can create opportunities for others?

Keep drilling down. 

Question further. 

Is it true that if you want a relationship, you are weak?

Is it true that if you want success, you are selfish? 

Your goal is to first understand what your subconscious thinks, even if it doesn’t seem to make sense. The key is to be curious about any message that is coming up as a reason.

Step 4: 

This is not a one-and-done exercise.

Remember, this programming has been going on often for 20, 30 or more years, so it will take some time to change it, but the more you work on it, the faster would be the results. And no, it won’t take 30 years because you have woken up your subconscious.

For one month, you need to do the following:

●      Read the positive affirmation daily.

●      Read the limiting beliefs and the answers to why these aren’t true. 

You may need to drill down more and keep asking the why and what questions for the same positive affirmation. Limiting beliefs are very strong.

●      Check-in. 

Remind yourself that you are training your subconscious to think differently. 

Is there any shift in your thinking? Is it easier to see why these aren’t true?

This exercise teaches your subconscious mind that these old beliefs that are holding you back are not true. 

You cannot change these beliefs if you don’t acknowledge them and get curious. 

The surprising part is that you will start to notice when these old beliefs come up in your daily activities. 

Remember, any change is difficult. The magic is that now you can see your subconscious and you are living consciously rather than on autopilot.

Remind yourself that you are training your subconscious to think differently. 

Affirmation and Limiting Beliefs Examples to Get You Started

1)    Limiting beliefs about money: 

When you practice working on affirmations for more money in your life, you need to address if any negative beliefs pulling you away from money.

So, write down, ‘I want to manifest more money in my life.’

Then you need to ask yourself about your beliefs on money.

  • Do I believe money is good? 
  • Do I believe if I have more money, other people have less? 
  • Is wanting money selfish? 
  • What can money do for me? 
  • Do I have a positive role model of someone with money?

You can use these questions or some of your own. The most important thing is to acknowledge any negative thoughts about money, write them down and then determine if you can make them positive. You cannot manifest something you think is bad or wrong, so this is crucial.

2)    Limiting beliefs about relationships: 

When you want to manifest a great partner in your life, you must work on any negative programming on the other side of the rope. 

So, for example, you say, ‘I would like a great relationship with a partner who loves me,’ but on the other side, subconsciously, you think I don’t want to be needy and I don’t need a man.

Then you are giving mixed messages to the universe. 

Instead, if this programming is coming up, you need to tell yourself that it would add to your life and that you want to connect. It isn’t weak to want to share your life with someone; it is beautiful. Be curious and write down everything, even if it seems silly.

Affirmation and Limiting Beliefs Examples to Get You Started

3)    Limiting beliefs about buying a house: 

If you are working on manifesting a home, be aware of any programming that was set up when you were little. Examples of limiting beliefs may be: ‘ a house traps you and takes away your freedom’ or ‘it means a lot of work, and looking after a house means you are not left with any money to do what you want to do for yourself’. 

If you want to manifest a house, you need to acknowledge these fears and explain to your subconscious why they aren’t true for you now.

4)    Limiting beliefs about health: 

A common one for health, particularly concerning one’s body image, is feeling inadequate or insecure if you are underweight. 

Being thin makes you feel exposed and vulnerable. It can also be a control issue – whether it is about weight gain or weight loss. When people feel out of control in their life, they try to control their weight. 

Consider these questions: ‘If I lose weight, how will I feel? Why do I hold onto the weight? You may be bothered by other questions that hold you back.‘

5)    Limiting beliefs about success: 

If you are working on positive affirmations for success and then see if you’re subconsciously thinking any of the following: 

a) success means I will have no time

b) if I have success, my family won’t support you

c) if I have success, my relationships will fail

Then you must work on the negative beliefs.

 Be curious and write down everything, even if it seems silly.
Be curious and write down everything, even if it seems silly.

Affirmations + Releasing Limiting Beliefs = a Powerful Tool

Positive affirmations are a powerful tool that can help set the tone for your day and your life. 

By using intentional affirmations, you take ownership of what you want in your life and become more mindful and effective. The examples of positive affirmations mentioned in this post show how they can be tailored to your unique situation and can help you work through challenges in various areas of your life. 

By incorporating positive affirmations into your daily routine and regularly reflecting on their impact.

You can create more consistent results and see the positive changes in your life over time. 

But make sure that you don’t just focus on affirmations, also uncover the limiting beliefs that are holding you back and let them go.

Summary of Key Points

  • Write your own positive affirmations that are unique to your needs, as you will likely get the best results that way. 
  • Being authentic to yourself and celebrating your uniqueness can help you overcome limiting beliefs and comparisons.
  • Positive affirmations are powerful because they force you to look within and take ownership of what you want in your life.
  • Overcoming limiting beliefs is crucial to achieving your goals and having your subconscious and conscious mind working together.
  • Positive affirmations can be tailored to your unique situation and can help you work through challenges in various areas of your life.

About the Author

TIFFANY WOODFIELD is a financial coach, cross-border expert, and entrepreneur based out of Kelowna, BC. As a TEP and associate portfolio manager, Tiffany has extensive experience working with successful professionals who want to leave a legacy and enjoy an adventurous, work-optional lifestyle. Tiffany combines extensive knowledge from her background as a financial professional with coaching and her passion for personal development to help her clients create a unique path that allows them to live their fullest potential. Tiffany has been a regular contributor to Bloomberg TV and has been interviewed by national and international publications, including the Globe and Mail and Barron’s.